Are you juggling to “earn” self-love?
A client I worked with last month told me she felt lost. She was juggling long hours at work, studying on weekends, showing up for everyone—always doing, never stopping. She kept chasing the next achievement, hoping it would finally bring fulfillment. But no matter how much she accomplished, the emptiness lingered. And when she did slow down? That little voice in her head whispered, You should be doing- more, something, anything...
Sound familiar?
(It certainly did for me.)
We’re taught to tie our worth to productivity, to seek approval instead of self-trust, to keep pushing—even when our body and heart beg us to pause. But self-love isn’t something you earn. It’s something you allow.
Listening to your needs—not just pushing through
Accepting yourself as you are, while still growing
Building inner safety, so your worth isn’t tied to your achievements
When you don’t prioritize yourself, the exhaustion doesn’t disappear. The next goal never quite fills the gap. Deep down, you wonder: Am I really enough, just as I am?
The answer is yes.
But the real question is—are you ready to start believing it?
Through our work together, she finally did. She learned to pause, to listen, to stop waiting until she had “earned” care. She set boundaries, softened her inner critic, and—maybe for the first time—felt at home in herself. And for the first time in years, she felt something new:
enough, exactly as she was.
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Here are some questions to reflect on further:
If I truly believed I was enough, just as I am, what would I stop forcing, chasing, or proving?
If I deeply respected my own needs, what would I say no to?
What’s one way I can make my daily routine feel more nourishing and supportive?
What belief about self-worth am I ready to rewrite?
What’s a small, loving action I can take today
—just for me?
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I’ve got 1 spot right now for 1:1 coaching with me, if you feel like there is more work you need to do and want to go deeper, I’m offering 1:1 self-love coaching for women and I’m always open and available to have a conversation to see if that might be a good next step for you.
If you are interested reach out to me via email or Instagram.
With love and light,
Marta x
